Esteemology - Page 2 of 42 - Esteemology was created to help empower victims of abuse, to build their self-esteem and make better relationship choices. To help navigate through dysfunctional relationships with emotional manipulators, to make the changes necessary to never attract these types again.

Reactivity and Controlling Your Emotions

When you mix Sodium (Na) and water (H2O) together you will get an explosive chemical reaction. The same thing happens when you mix different personality types together with a dash of conflict.

6 Ways to Be Committed to Your Goals

When I was a young girl, there was a TV show called Fame that aired in the 80’s. It was about the experiences of young people studying at a school of fine arts. What was so memorable to me was a speech by Phylicia Rashad that occurred in the opening sequence of each episode. It went something like this, “You’ve got big dreams? You want fame? Well fame costs and right here is where you start paying – with sweat.”

What Do I Do With His Stuff?

So many times a victim asks what they should do with the narcissist’s things, he has taken most of his stuff but there is a box of his things in the garage or basement that you don’t know what to do with. You have called him and asked him to pick it up, he says he will but weeks go by and he still doesn’t show up.

Self-Esteem and Income: Do You Know How to Get What You Deserve?

We’ve been talking a lot about finances over the last few weeks and that’s because it’s a very important aspect of autonomy and your well-being. I’ve always said that when you don’t need anyone, you’re able to make better, healthier choices.

Spotting the Signs of Financial Abuse

When people think of domestic abuse, they often think of the physical, verbal, or emotional forms of it. Rarely does financial abuse get mentioned, but it is actually more common than you might think. Simply put, financial abuse is when money is used as a tool for manipulation in relationships, and is something that the United Nations Foundation estimates happens in 99% of domestic violence cases.

Narcissists and Protecting Your Finances

My best friend and I were preparing dinner for her mother this weekend for Mother’s Day and we got on the topic of relationships, finances and trust. Do people still share bank accounts? Are people still going all in, in their relationships or do they protect themselves?

Narcissists and the Unbreakable Connection

I was reading comments on the Support Forum and several of the “victims” were discussing the telepathic connection they have with the narcissist, how they could “will” him to call, or how uncanny it was that he would call right as they were thinking about him. How they could feel him thinking about them and the pull of the connection they have with the narcissist.