Esteemology - Page 2 of 42 - Esteemology was created to help empower victims of abuse, to build their self-esteem and make better relationship choices. To help navigate through dysfunctional relationships with emotional manipulators, to make the changes necessary to never attract these types again.

Signs You Should Not Be Dating

I sat on my client’s sofa showing them the comps in their neighborhood and explaining why it was a good time to put their house on the market. I was a year out from my ten year relationship with my ex-Narcissist and I was putting my life back together again.

In that year, I got my Real Estate license. Now I was out to conquer the world of home buying. I took a sip of tea, from the beautiful bone china cup and my phone started ringing. I looked down and saw that it was the big muscley, Vin Diesel type guy that I had just broken up with.

Reactivity and Controlling Your Emotions

When you mix Sodium (Na) and water (H2O) together you will get an explosive chemical reaction. The same thing happens when you mix different personality types together with a dash of conflict.

6 Ways to Be Committed to Your Goals

When I was a young girl, there was a TV show called Fame that aired in the 80’s. It was about the experiences of young people studying at a school of fine arts. What was so memorable to me was a speech by Phylicia Rashad that occurred in the opening sequence of each episode. It went something like this, “You’ve got big dreams? You want fame? Well fame costs and right here is where you start paying – with sweat.”

What Do I Do With His Stuff?

So many times a victim asks what they should do with the narcissist’s things, he has taken most of his stuff but there is a box of his things in the garage or basement that you don’t know what to do with. You have called him and asked him to pick it up, he says he will but weeks go by and he still doesn’t show up.

Self-Esteem and Income: Do You Know How to Get What You Deserve?

We’ve been talking a lot about finances over the last few weeks and that’s because it’s a very important aspect of autonomy and your well-being. I’ve always said that when you don’t need anyone, you’re able to make better, healthier choices.

Spotting the Signs of Financial Abuse

When people think of domestic abuse, they often think of the physical, verbal, or emotional forms of it. Rarely does financial abuse get mentioned, but it is actually more common than you might think. Simply put, financial abuse is when money is used as a tool for manipulation in relationships, and is something that the United Nations Foundation estimates happens in 99% of domestic violence cases.

Narcissists and Protecting Your Finances

My best friend and I were preparing dinner for her mother this weekend for Mother’s Day and we got on the topic of relationships, finances and trust. Do people still share bank accounts? Are people still going all in, in their relationships or do they protect themselves?